Slow To Anger ~ October 1, 2020
Good Morning Blessings to each of you today – thank you for joining me for today’s ROF Ministries broadcast! I certainly pray you are at peace today and staying firming placed upon the narrow path, which leads us to Jesus in His righteous ways. I was thinking about how the broad way is a more external pathway, while the narrow way is internal and of the heart surrendered fully to Jesus. Outwardly, our wills and ways lead us, inwardly His will and ways lead us. You can easily tell now who is being led by the flesh with one easy to spot key — how they react to their surroundings and those around them or what they see or hear. So with that – “react” is our word of the day, that we are going to measure ourselves by. Just how are we “reacting” to all that is going on around us, especially other people?
I didn’t watch the debate the other night, but what little bit I did observe, it was a disaster – a prime example of how not to react to someone or something. It’s pitiful really… Lord help them. Offense, accusation, interrupting, showing disgust, false shaming statements, being boastful on self, prideful, etc… Are all examples of how a child of God does not react by walking in Spirit and truth. I am finding myself perplexed on how anyone who truly loves Jesus could uphold such behavior?
And if it’s not bad enough… We have those who say they are Christians, displaying more characteristics of the World than Jesus all by how they react. So today is going to be another truth hitting measuring rod and mirror into the Word to see just how we measure up according to the commands of Jesus in His likeness. You all ready?
Love never fails, unless we do. As long as we are walking in love – love covers all shortcomings and prevails. For contention or strife to set in, we must surrender to it, becoming a spokesperson for it to have it’s way – losing patience equals losing graceful responses. So the same is true for anger… We must give placement to anger for anger to override love. We all get irritated at times, but it is our reaction to the irritating which sets us on the course in the direction we shall go, anger or love… To be angry and sin not is – we sense anger and irritation seeking to influence us and we choose love instead. All these conniption fits we’ve thrown, have to go. It is time to put away all childish ways and grow… Grow in love, that is. To check ourselves as to how often we actually do walk in the purity of love is to really consider in truth – how often we get angry? Is it daily? Hourly? Weekly? Or when we don’t get our way? Whatever the case may be – we must be honest with ourselves and mainly with Jesus – Just how often are we upset and angry? This is no time to be in denial – time is too short for any of that. Oh and for all of those who are passive aggressive, yet still angry – that counts. Passive aggressive anger is for all those pouters out there, who may have an occasional hissy fit but on a regular basis withdraw and withhold love. Not everyone who is angry lashes out and gives people a cussin… lol
Okay so now that we have that settled – all are included in today’s study, because all get angry sometimes. We are going to start out today in James 1 –
19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
20 For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.
- We are to be faster to hear someone than we are to speak to or about them
- And in this – He basically just said our anger/wrath is founded in self-righteousness, not God’s
So we are going to sidestep just a moment and talk for a moment about how to respond to a reproach in a fearless and Lord seeking way.
It is true – words from others do hurt our hearts at times. Let’s take a look at a portion of
1 Peter 3 –
8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:
9 Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.
10 For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile:
11 Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.
12 For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil.
13 And who is he that will harm you, if ye be followers of that which is good?
14 But and if ye suffer for righteousness’ sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled;
15 But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:
16 Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ.
17 For it is better, if the will of God be so, that ye suffer for well doing, than for evil doing.
So here we are… We at times are slandered, reproached, reviled and yet… If we remain in righteousness we protect our conscience from being seared in many ways and the Lord is sanctified within our hearts so that we do not repay evil for evil and then they will fall directly into the hands of the Lord and He will deal directly with them. And I so love the last verse… What an uplifting verse that is – since we all suffer at times, He encourages us that it is so much better to suffer for well doing than because of our own evil actions. Wow – thank You Lord.
When we fearlessly in Jesus, respond or not – to slander or reproach or they who reviles against us – there is so much growth fruit produced and love prevails!
It becomes a – teaching moment, purging moment, growth moment in love, blessings in suffering for the sake of Jesus (carrying our cross daily), an opportunity to whole-heartedly in faithfulness choose Jesus. Adversity also exposes who our enemies are in truth – when we may otherwise be blinded, it exposes when someone we thought were close to us are intentionally coming against us and exposes deficiency in our own walks. So it is truly revealing how with the Lord’s hand placed upon us – He works all things together for our own good, since we are being called according to His purpose and plan. He promises not to leave us ignorant to the enemies devices, but often we reject His wisdom, don’t we?
When we respond without fear, without railing accusations in return or defending of self we are then in right position to see clearly by the Spirit and consider the source – the accuser – the one who the enemy is using to be his vessel of usage to actually be – the accuser of the brethren, who throw his wielded fiery darts. By refusing to engage and participate – we are not returning evil for evil and not engaging with evil in anyway.
- Remember – you do not have to respond to an accusation whatsoever.
- The enemy wants us to be provoked in order we stoop to his level in putting someone to an open shame.
- Our flesh always wants to save face and justify itself – but remember, Jesus gave no placement to the devil by responding. Giving an answer not only makes us surrender to evil by permission to rule over us it also deflects Jesus as the focal point in our lives.
- When we are preoccupied with explaining ourselves to vessels of iniquity it empowers them and remember they will never be satisfied with the answer we give anyway – it is a trap.
- The whole game he is playing here is to get us ensnared into who is right and who is wrong so that we too become a vessel participating in and with the spirit of accusation.
- When we keep a good conscience before the Lord, it does not become seared, in which we no longer see a need to repent for wicked ways and instead justify iniquity within ourselves.
- Scripture tells us truth is always revealed and when we bow out of the entangled web of infighting the Word tells us “God will reveal the truth about you and those accusing you will be ashamed”… If we disengaged completely, the Lord takes over, so we should have some comfort in His ways which are perfect. This is what it looks like to be one after God’s heart.
- Sparring with others only robs us of our peace and trying to defend ourselves against faultfinders only fuels their fiery darts. If you explain one situation, they will find another to rail against you with and it becomes a cycle of hate. So it is a lose-lose situation for all involved and heartbreaking for those on the sidelines, who feel compelled to take a side.
- When we are unruly, we are unteachable and not willing to yield to the leading of the Holy Spirit. Unteachable people have hearts which are very far away from God, evident by how they react and treat those who are opposing them.
Many honor Him with their lips but their hearts are far from Him – be not deceived, listen you all…. Every single thing right now is about sowing and reaping, it is almost as if the reapers are here… just sayin… God is not mocked, mocked by pretending to walk in love outwardly, while inwardly you are laced with sin, especially fuming in anger.
Listen, the religious know all about the rules, traditions and even Scripture – but guess what? They do not know the nature of our Father – Our Father in Heaven, Who sows mercy, grace and love continually upon His children. Our Father who disciplines His own children because He loves us. Our Father who allowed all the sins of the World to come upon His Son in order that we be saved. Our Father Who is just and merciful and full of lovingkindness towards us.
Hey – some of you all need to stop blaming the devil for what our Father is allowing in your lives to draw you back into His loving arms. Just because a momma saves her child from pulling the boiling pot of water off the stove does not mean that same child doesn’t have blisters on his hands from touching it to begin with. Some of you all, look at those blisters you have – they will heal in time, but are you ready to stop touching that stove yet? Reaping and sowing…. Don’t cry about being gossiped about when you talk about others at every turn – which is totally different than being persecuted for your faith by the way. How you react and respond is everything of who you really are… I heard an amazing message yesterday about how we like to appear all holy and then get a phone call and we are all ears to hear the faults of another – a gossiper always wants the whole story, often chasing after the one offended and this happens all the time in the chatroom… Again, we cannot mock God, He knows full well the intentions of our hearts. I am glad Michael shut the chatroom down at night and during unproductive times – as a matter of fact, I asked him to do this three years ago. When you have people gathering to get the dirt on others to spread gossip – then its becoming a place where unholy alliances gather. I think you all call yourself “lurkers” – which I’ve never liked that word. You do realize the opposite of the lurker is the prey you are spying on, right? Lurkers are nosey if the only reason they are there is to see what others are talking about – that isn’t “serving” the Lord, how about you go lurk at the Salvation Army and feed the homeless? Or walk your city block and pray for the members of each house on your street? There are so many opportunities to spread the Gospel of peace in this dark World. But gathering information on others is not on God’s to do list, that’s for sure. Okay, that’s my rant for the day… When we are about the Father’s business, we are busy not busybodies.
So back to our study… We are to be slow to anger, because our Father is slow to anger. Love puts the others first by demonstrating charity (giving of self) to them. Charity actually is: LOVE IN ACTION, deeds – not simply words. We have many that gather with us at our feasts of charity who do not gather to share in Jesus’s love – they want to take what is offered, yet they lack “charity” – they lack giving, only seeking to receive and these spots, as the Word calls them – they can suck the life right out of a person, if we are not careful. And they bounce around from place to place because discontentment resides within – they are never at peace and never happy in one place for too long – as fault gatherers they stay until where they are a fault is found, then in a huff they leave – looking for the next best thing. It is chaos, division from within – they bring it in, because it resides within them and yet… since it follows them everywhere they go – there is no peace.
Agape Love – is what the brethren of Jesus’s body share one to another and it is pure and it is rare. Agape or rather affectionate love shows goodwill (giving natures), tenderness (very gentle), benevolence (healing of the heart), kindness (mercy) and helps others within the body to grow in the gifts of the Holy Spirit. When gathering with 2 or more together at an agape feast there is a fostering for growth of mutual love and exchange of love – given and received, it replicates being equally yoked to love, Himself. Love is tangible – it is not some made up concept. God is love – you can sense Him, embrace Him, walk in Him and most importantly abide in His Love.
A beautiful display of this sort of love is found in the bible in a way you may not have considered it to be so before… At the celebration of the Lord’s supper we found poor Christians mingling together with the wealthy, all partaking of the same food provided and we are taught in Scripture, the rich gladly provided for the food they partook of. Jesus says all come to Him – none are counted out to feast upon His love and share it one to another. Provocation of any kind is at enmity with love and is bordering hatred.
We learn from His word that love is not easily provoked in 1 Corinthians 13:5 – which is a beautiful description of love shared among believers – each more greatly concerned with the wellbeing of the others than they are for themselves. Love is what we do when living inside the Kingdom, because our identity is love, Himself. By demonstrating goodwill to one another it is the highest form of sacrifice in love we can offer unto Jesus. By loving others, we actually are loving Him to a higher degree. It is Him loving through us and it is rare and it is precious.
We display His love by –
- Sharing in the sufferings of others, because He does
- Never inflicting pain on others, either verbally or physically, because He didn’t
- To sincerely be for the life and not the death of everyone, because Jesus is
I say all this to hopefully and prayerfully prompt us all to realize in truth the only heart we have a hand in changing is our own. If things are a mess, and nowadays they certainly are – when we change, it automatically fortifies a change in others. And when we fully surrender to the ways of Jesus – it may take some time, but truly only 3 things remain – faith, hope and love and anything outside of those things, roll right off our flesh, no longer provoking us to respond. This is the nature of fellowship with other believers. One obstacle many are facing right now – and I did too years ago, so I get it – is we’ve joined to fellowship with those the Lord did not place us with out of our own strong freewill – we’ve talked about this a lot, but anyone or anything that is above Jesus in our lives is being severed. It is not that we cannot be with others as much as whoever we place above Him, well now – He is severing ties all over the place and saying Hey come and see, this is your mother, father, brother, sister… We have chosen in the past to be unequally yoked with many and now sits in our heart a complaint as if the Lord is requiring too much of us. We’ve all done this by the way, the Lord is calling us to acknowledge our part and confess to Him how we’ve errored off the path to righteousness.
The Lord told us we can attain – tongues, prophecy, understand all the mysteries of God, have knowledge, all the faith possible, we can sell everything and feed the poor with the money we gain, we can even reach the point of death and if we do not have LOVE void of self-concerns, then we have nothing. That is surely a sobering statement isn’t it?
Charity suffers with others for as long as someone else suffers. It also is kind, never envies others, never boasts or is not prideful, it does not behave inappropriately or seek selfish gain, is not easily provoked/offended, never considers for one moment to do evil upon another, is not happy when someone is caught in iniquity, it never lies and is always rejoicing in the truth, it conceals the shortcomings of others – rather than putting them to an open shame and never, ever betrays as it is always displaying fidelity towards others. Love never fails or falls away, it hopes and trusts in the Lord to make a way and it endures all things by remaining calm when mistreated. PURE LOVE TRUSTS THE LORD, knowing He is sovereignly protecting, guiding and teaching in the truth we are being kept within the shadows of His love.
Wow – that is quite sobering, isn’t it? Seems we all have some purifying left within our hearts, don’t we? There is a great falling away right now that we are witnessing at the moment and it is increasing at an alarming rate every single day. We are studying this to insure we do not fall into it’s smothering grasp and be carried away by offense.
The Lord instructs us how love never fails – love never falls away, people fall away from love, but love always remains. Prophecies may cease, mans words shall be erased, knowledge will vanish because we only know in part/which is mixture. Mixture is being emptied out of our hearts in that which is perfect may come and reside within.
Jesus tells us to rid ourselves of all mixture, childish ways – to contain the purity of – speech, understanding and thoughts. As we grow into spiritual maturity all childish ways are done away with and are actually rejected by us personally/tossed into the sea of forgetfulness – which is part of the schism in the Body right now. Some are full on with Jesus and others still prefer to play around, leaning on their own carnal understanding. When we look into the mirror of His word, in the reflection of self we see mixture – a little bit of Jesus and a little bit of us – which is called “seeing darkly in the mirror” or seeing in part. As we mature we know HIM as He knows us – through the eyes of LOVE, we are known to Him and all. In this process of cleansing we become cleansed, empty of self and pure and when that happens, again – what remains? FAITH IN JESUS, HOPE IN JESUS & LOVE IN JESUS – we have then been purged of the World’s carnal influence, self-seeking ways, our old natures and all rebellion – against God and others. Jesus said – if you love Me you will do as I say…. We evolve into beings who are obedient to one voice – we hear one voice and we follow it… HIS.
The Lord speaks quite harshly on “idle words”… these words are fruitless, dead and not profitable for life. Cursing others, self or God forbid, even the Lord… Any word not profitable for FAITH, HOPE OR LOVE is an idle word. Only the children of perdition as spoken of in Hebrews 10 use such idle words. Mathew 26 says they have taken the broad way to destruction and are set to destroy others. They may say destructive and disruptive things or give opinions, they are full of misery and oppose others at every turn. We are to be for life, they are for death. We display the nature of the Father, Who seeks life for all, they deny His nature and will often prepare a mind list of why you must die – counting faults, rather than digging for treasure hidden within someone. The Word tells us they sadly will be excluded from the Kingdom of God and it is evident this severing is occurring right now. Romans 9 tells us they are vessels of wrath because they have their minds on flesh or Earthly things, found in Philippians 3, they are ungodly as written in 2 Peter 3 and because they embrace death, search for it and point it out in others… they are wallowing in the Book of death – their names are not recorded in the Book of Life or else they have been blotted out – by their choosing of their own rebellious ways, unteachable – which is mentioned in Revelation 17. It is so sad, but they have the mark of the beast upon their hearts – what they worship, they bow down to and it is self-ego. They love self, way more than they love the truth and therefore are so compromised the beastly animalistic ways have set up inside them, as found in 2 Thessalonians 2 states – they mystery of iniquity is fully at work within their hearts, recognizable by their pride, ego and worship of self. It is very sad to me, but on that day when Jesus returns – they will view Him as their enemy, although they may have worshiped Him with their mouths, their hearts are far from Him, so He will say, depart from Me, I never knew you. He will say to them, your works were evil in power, signs, lying wonders, mesmerizing masses to deceive and beguile because when I really appeared before you – I was hungry, but you gave Me no food, when I was thirsty you gave me no drink and so forth… Because what you do unto the least of these, You did unto Me… Love, consoles and suffers long. The wicked shall be revealed at the brightness of His coming, consumed by Him and destroyed – but do you know why? His light always destroys by overtaking and overshadowing darkness. So if we still have mixture within us when He appears, guess what happens? We are set for consumption and destroyed. Now remember, this is only for those who did not receive the love of the truth when it was offered – we can choose whether to receive or deny His love and His truth and His ways. The Lord knows who is and is not truly seeking Him with all they are and who just says it for show – those pretending are sent a strong delusion so that they believe a lie because they have pleasure in doing unrighteous acts – too many to name – it is not that we all don’t make mistakes, it is the denying our shortcomings – which is a form of rebellion – that gets us into trouble. I’ve known actual people who not only lie, they begin to believe the lie they told to the point they are delusional in their thinking so much so they want to argue their way out of getting caught, by trying to convince you that you are crazy. The Word tells us the devil is the father of all liars. This is no time to be excusing our sinful ways – lets just admit our fallen nature and keep praying and seeking the Lord to come to us in our time of weakness so that we are granted that gift of repentance and walk as children of light. Not one of us is guaranteed to even wake up tomorrow – time is too short to be snagged on pride, we’ve all fallen short of His glorious ways – it doesn’t matter so much how we’ve fallen short, but rather that we whole-heartedly seek Him for reconciliation.
I was reading in 2 Thessalonians 3 – which is so timely for right now! We surely need the Father’s assistance to sustain us within the World we live at the moment. All over the place people are so very cunning and crafty – embracing you with their words of love and stabbing you in the back when you aren’t looking or aware they are around. So I was praying this Scripture to the Lord and asking for Him to deliver us from unreasonable and wicked people who portray themselves as having faith and love in Jesus but do not. I was asking Him to keep us from evil continually and direct our hearts to love Him and others and to patiently wait for Jesus. May He divinely help us to withdraw ourselves from those who are disorderly, unruly, rebellious and refuse to submit to God’s authority or others He placed over them. May He pour out His spirit of conviction upon those who are deviants, busybodies and unrepentant, showing them mercy to turn from their wicked ways before it is too late. Amen.
This is all in 2 Thessalonians – I am simply interceding in agreement with what the Lord already wrote.
I need to remind us how in verse 11 it says, it is useless to the Body to be inquisitive about other people’s private business or to busy yourself with what someone is doing, being nosey or too pre-occupied yourself with what (Michael) I mean – others are doing. Lololol Sorry, I just had to throw that in there… I know people who actually lose sleep watching for Michael… that’s just crazy, I don’t even do that myself, which by the way, makes Michael very uncomfortable – that I know for a fact.
I was thinking about how in verse 13 He tells us not to grow weary in doing good – our own labors wear us out don’t they? It seems Jesus pours into us and pours out through us, but when we “do good works” it can get exhausting. When we are doing good with Jesus, rather than by ourselves – we are strengthened in Him – to live uprightly, being righteous in our thoughts and actions, obedient, surrendered to Jesus and disciplined… Which actually strengthens us and it is the easier, calmer way to live.
He goes on in verse 14 to tell us – those who do not obey Him we are to not keep company with them. Which actually means to associate with, mingle, entertain, be intimate with so that they become ashamed (in order to repent) – this is not saying we shun them, but rather DO NOT ENGAGE OR ENTERTAIN what they are doing – we do not participate in it. Now a couple things about this – one is, if we share in the same sin as them we will overlook their disobedience because we do not want to change ourselves and somehow we convince ourselves if another is doing it, it is irrelevant. Sinners just love someone they can sin with equally. Some people take great offense at this Scripture because they are seeing it through their mindseye, but this is totally for the betterment of the other person – not for saving yourself – when you disengage in the disobedient behaviors of another it is so they make a course correction in their life, it is also how you passively can redirect someone without preaching to them. Remember, this is about them, not you.
Let’s say you have someone who calls you and every time they do – they always work their way around to a topic of complaint or finding faults in others. You hang on the phone, not injecting, just listening – but you don’t speak up either. By doing nothing, you are telling them without saying – what they are doing is acceptable in your presence… We are to avoid such darkness, not go along with it by being silent. Instead, as led by the Holy Spirit we can tell them we are happy to talk to them about anything but gossip, complaints or faults in others and when they start in – we say, sorry I need to go now. If we do this on a consistent basis, eventually that door for the enemy to enter into your conversations will be closed and hopefully, this person will realize and be ashamed enough to repent. If they refuse to stop, then you do not have to keep taking their phone calls, in hopes they will reflect on their own disobedience. Saying nothing is not doing them a favor. Often when we take a stand of boldness in the Lord – they will lash out and cut you off and that is okay, that is their freewill and an excellent time for us to intercede and pray for them continually.
We are told in verse 15 to not count this person as an enemy, but love them enough as a brother or sister for that matter to admonish them. And of course, we do these things with a heart of love for them – don’t admonish anyone you do not have a close inner relationship with – but an intimate one of the heart. Admonish sounds so much harsher than it actually is – because people walk around already in offense. Admonish in Greek simply means to: warn, caution or gently correct. Remember – rules without relationship breeds rebellion. If you do not have a relationship with someone, don’t try to instill a rule on them – love always is the key or else they will rebel.
Recently, I had someone I have no relationship with try to put the smack down on me and it even made me rebel against them – meaning reject what they were faultfinding about as it wasn’t grounded in love, I thought who are you to tell me – I don’t even know you and you certainly do not know me, obviously or you would have never have done what you did…. Lol so see, none of us want to be admonished by someone who does not love us first. And listen closely, do not be deceived – PEOPLE PERCEIVE WHETHER LOVE IS AUTHENTIC OR NOT – words mean hardly anything – love is a presence you carry that others discern.
I should point out here – that not everyone is empty enough of self yet to actually admonish anyone. If we are not empty of self and go around admonishing people – well, the Lord will remove His covering hand for a time and the enemy will tear you to shreds – I learned this the hard way, so please take it from me, you don’t want to go there.
We cannot have anger, strife, envy, competition, pride, disobedience, self-willed power and such within us or what we reveal or unleash upon another will come back to us multiplied AND the Lord allows this reaping so we become more wise in what we sow. Believe me, I’ve been beaten with many stripes…
The Lord commands us to not be a stumbling block to someone by embracing or entertaining their sinful practices, we do not condone disobedience in another, but rather surrender to the Lord ourselves and Him alone, in that He may use us if He so desires.
The truth is we are all a mixed bag of souls at the moment and what you look for in others, you will surely find. Sometimes it may be harder to dig deep inside someone to see the hidden treasures – but they are surely there – seeds of faith, hope and love, just beginning to blossom to life. If we are looking for faults, mistakes, sin, evil and such within others – we will surely find that too. But Jesus called us to water seeds already sown in that the Father may give increase to that seed. Most often, even the worst of the bullies on Earth respond to a little sprinkling of love. They soften even just a little and it really fills you with joy. The call the Lord placed on my heart for us all for today is… RESPOND ONLY IN LOVE TO LOVE. We do not even need to respond to the negative of another, just give attention to the positive – if only it is fleeting – look for opportunities to draw out the good treasure of another, no matter how sparse it may be. This is called edifying another!
So how we respond to others is everything! That is the takeaway from today’s study. If someone is spewing evil and we respond with good – guess what remains? The good in us remains intact. If someone is full of anger and we respond in peace – the peace within us shall remain. Help us Lord not to fuel the fire raging in others, but instead by the living water of love to extinguish all that which torments and rages those we love so dearly. Amen.
A good place to start for many of us is to just stop responding all together. To do nothing in response to anger before learning how to respond appropriately. I call it – don’t get down and dirty rolling in the mud with someone – just refraining is a step in the right direction.
Thank you all so much for joining me today. I pray today’s life lesson makes your life just a little easier to handle in this tumultuous World we are living in. Please keep clinging to that which is good – Jesus, no matter what! Love and Bless you so very much!