Narcissist/Jezebel & Co-dependent/Ahab Study – Part 1

?What a journey this has been, containing many months of breaking, until recently not even knowing the why’s of what I was walking out and yet continually seeking Jesus for understanding, covering and guidance.

My prayer and desire is that you be comforted with the same words and truth, by which I was comforted, in order to continue comforting others, by which you are comforted.

The main focus of this series of study is going to be receiving Godly instruction and truth in reference to Narcissist/Jezebel ~ Codependent/Ahab.  Some of you likely are  thinking you know about this already, however, I challenge you to pray and open your hearts to receive what I am going to be sharing, because truthfully not too long ago I was sitting in your seat right now.

I can guarantee you 100% every last one of you have dealt with or are dealing with and maybe even have exhibited traits resembling a narcissist or codependent, no matter how young or old you are.  It wasn’t until recently did the Holy Spirit reveal to me how they are tied into oppression/possession or basically being influenced by a spirit of Jezebel or Ahab.  The truth is, until something is revealed – How can you repent of such a thing?  You cannot…  And this is where my journey began.  I was sick to death of being controlled, manipulated, pressed upon, drained, being told how I felt or should feel, which negated my God-given gift to have an opinion, being self-labeled as a “Giver,” basically I was drained, having nothing left to give.  The list could go on and on – which we will explore more in depth later… But for now, let’s just say the Lord did not want me DEPENDENT or rather CO-DEPENDENT anymore on anyone but HIM.

One day He gave me a Scripture which shook me up a little, it was Galatians 1:10 –

For do I now persuade men, or God? or do I seek to please men? for if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ.

I saw the fault in my ways in this…  I saw how I often try to PERSUADE MEN and I also saw how often I seek to have the APPROVAL OF MEN.  It was on that day I began my journey to freedom and I let Him lead me all the way – into total freedom and Who He sets free is free indeed.  Looking back now I can see how this Co-dependency (Worldly term) was woven into the fabric of my soul from a very young age – like a web too far reaching and too complex for any man to deliver me from.  It was me and it was our Lord Jesus.  This was His doing, that none should boast in that He solely would get the Glory He so deserves.  All He required of me was to let go of all I had been told, taught, shown, etc… By man (because it is all vanity – but that is a whole other story within a story) Speaking of which, the driving force behind Rituals is vanity the Lord showed me.  On a side note, if people saw what I saw – You would never demand or persuade anyone ever to worship, take communion, give an offering or be delivered again – which is vile to the Father and stinks in His nostrils, and is a primary reason why Jesus is coming back to set in place and teach His own His true feasts.

Did you know it says in Mark 14:25 that Jesus will never drink of the fruit of the vine until that DAY WHEN HE SHALL DRINK IT IN THE NEW KINGDOM?  I digress…. I am just saying that we do so much out of vanity convinced it is according to what the Lord would have us do. Forgive me for the rabbit trail…

Back to the study at hand~

My journey started when I was so broken inside I relentlessly called out to my Lord to help me, not to mention all the others I called upon and so graciously tried to help me and loved me through it.  The pain did not go away until I began to get the understanding of why it was there in the first place.  Sooooo, I was comforted by the Lord, gained His wisdom in order to comfort another and periodically, since only He can actually change a heart, we will pray together for Him to do a mighty complete work in your life as well.

There are two types of creation.  Obedient children and disobedient children.

The disobedient children have chosen the way of Cain, to walk according to their own ways in succinct rebellion, having their conscience seared with a hot iron, no longer feeling the pull to repent.  Simply put, they may speak of Jesus but refuse to live a life laid down in submission – not loving Him enough to do as He says.

Today I am talking to those who truly desire to walk according to the precepts of Jesus in full submission to His will, His ways, reflecting the character of Him.  I am a firm believer that we cannot lay down something until it is revealed, once revealed the Lord will give us grace to overcome all things.  Obedient children receive the Lord’s conviction in their hearts which is power to repent – to actually go and sin no more.

So there I was… He had showed me a truth about me and yet I had no knowledge to back up the characteristics I was displaying and the forces coming at me by the hand of others who attempted to mold me into something I was not and yet their demands made me feel as if I was drowning – no matter how hard I poured into them, nothing changed.  I knew that day, I was the one who needed to change.  When we change it forges a change in those close to us.  Amazing how God works all things together for the good this way.

I began to research all I could about the characteristics of the Worldly term – Co-dependent, which we will go over.  This whole process has been so Holy Spirit lead I find it difficult to articulate all He was doing with Earthly words.  While in the process of this discovery I had an amazing revelation…  Co-dependents feed off of Narcissists and in turn Narcissists glean fuel from a Co-dependent.  This will become much more clear to you when we get further into our Study.   That day as I was standing in the kitchen, the Lord spoke to me in my Spirit saying He laid out an example for me in the Bible…  Jezebel and Ahab.  It was at that moment I had that which I needed to share with others – Scriptural proof of this insistent Spiritual entanglement.  As we move forward we will explore more about this entanglement and the strong presence of Jezebel/Narcissists today.

It is so important of a truth that it is even mentioned in the Book of Revelation, being something the Church of Thyatira must overcome in the last days.

Revelation 2:18-29

 18 And unto the angel of the church in Thyatira write; These things saith the Son of God, who hath his eyes like unto a flame of fire, and his feet are like fine brass;

19 I know thy works, and charity, and service, and faith, and thy patience, and thy works; and the last to be more than the first.

20 Notwithstanding I have a few things against thee, because thou sufferest that woman Jezebel, which calleth herself a prophetess, to teach and to seduce my servants to commit fornication, and to eat things sacrificed unto idols.

21 And I gave her space to repent of her fornication; and she repented not.

22 Behold, I will cast her into a bed, and them that commit adultery with her into great tribulation, except they repent of their deeds.

23 And I will kill her children with death; and all the churches shall know that I am he which searcheth the reins and hearts: and I will give unto every one of you according to your works.

24 But unto you I say, and unto the rest in Thyatira, as many as have not this doctrine, and which have not known the depths of Satan, as they speak; I will put upon you none other burden.

25 But that which ye have already hold fast till I come.

26 And he that overcometh, and keepeth my works unto the end, to him will I give power over the nations:

27 And he shall rule them with a rod of iron; as the vessels of a potter shall they be broken to shivers: even as I received of my Father.

28 And I will give him the morning star.

29 He that hath an ear, let him hear what the Spirit saith unto the churches.

Jezebel is a demonic force at work in the World today.  This influence is honestly more than any of us can handle alone and actually it would be detrimental to even attempt such a feat.  There is one way and one way only to defeat this foe, whether you are suffering from such tendencies yourself or under its influence and that is to NOT KNOW THE DEPTHS OF SATAN’S SPEECH, HOLD FAST TO JESUS UNTIL HE COMES AND TO KEEP DOING THE WORKS OF OUR LORD UNTIL THE END.  I believe this is the exact time we are living in prophetically right now… Those under her influence (mind you, this is INSIDE the Church) have a small space in time to repent.

The first mention of Jezebel/Ahab in the 1 Kings when Elijah faced this demonic force.  LET’S GET ONE THING STRAIGHT RIGHT AWAY – JEZEBEL DOES NOT ONLY REFER TO WOMEN.  This false truth itself was born out of the Spirit of Jezebel to remain hidden.  The only reason this entity is referred to as a female is because it multiplies and grows wherever it is allowed to function.  Please do not tolerate her operating – if you hear someone speak the false doctrine of only women can operate likened to a Jezebel Spirit – expose it as such – a lie.  I would encourage you to read 1 and 2 Kings in full via the Holy Spirit to glean full understanding of the scope of the destruction birthed out of such darkness.  For the sake of time I am just going to paraphrase what is found in Scripture.

Beforehand, I want to go over the fruits of this evil Spirit’s labor mentioned in Galatians 5:19-21 – which are:  ADULTRY, FORNICATION, UNCLEANNESS, LASCIVIOUSNESS, IDOLATRY, WITCHCRAFT, HATRED, VARIANCE, EMULATIONS, WRATH, STRIFE, SEDITIONS, HERESIES, ENVY, MURDER, DRUNKENESS, REVELLINGS – which in doing ANY OF THESE THINGS you will not inherit the Kingdom of God.  Mainly because we cannot serve two masters, the Word says we will love one and hate the other.  Committing such acts makes one so entwined deeply with Satan, his is the Kingdom one serves during that time.  Thankfully, our Father is so merciful there is granted a space to repent.  I often wonder when that space in time will be up?  That day and hour only He knows, which is why we are to work out our salvation daily with fear and trembling.  Praise God.

Back to 1 & 2 Kings, only because it is so important to see the truth in how Jezebel and Ahab fuel and feed one another.  After we lay the Biblical foundation we will get into more life application resources and tools which apply to us each and every day.  When we do this, trust me, you are going to be amazed at how much this falsehood has touched you throughout your life and likely still does today.

Like with anything… Once your eyes have been opened you become so much more aware of the subtly of the ways the enemy seeks to destroy and you see just how he has used you and others to accomplish his will.  We can be so ever grateful for the gift of repentance in this fashion for it truly is a gift.  Now that I am more aware I can cast this chain off of me, no longer serving his kingdom.  However, having such wisdom at times does bring with it a burden so to speak because I find myself seeing it beguiling and influencing many others.  Knowing it is not my job to point out what another is stuck in, but rather point to the One Who does save – Our Lord Jesus, as I said earlier this truly is a deliverance which is intimate between Him and the individual.

Let’s take a look at the Queen of Narcissism and the King Co-dependent spoken of in Scripture, that being – Jezebel and Ahab. 

King David had been absent from the scene of Hebrew history for about 135 years when this story opens. His great kingdom, enlarged and more richly endowed by his son Solomon, had been fractured into two weakened fragments. The southern kingdom of Judah was being ruled by his descendants, while the northern kingdom of Israel suffered under a succession of wicked men at the helm.

Ahab is introduced to the pages of Scripture with these shocking words: “And Ahab the son of Omri did evil in the sight of the Lord more than all who were before him” (1 Kgs. 16:30). He had the dubious distinction of being the most wicked king who reigned over Israel up until his day. “He married Jezebel the daughter of Ethbaal king of the Sidonians, and went to serve Baal and worshiped him” (1 Kgs. 16:31).

“Sidonians” were people on the Mediterranean coast who occupied the great cities of Tyre and Sidon. With the ever-present menace of Syria and the growing threat of Assyria, Ahab decided that he needed an alliance with this neighboring nation, so he made a treaty with the king of Phoenicia and sealed it by marrying his daughter. That is how Jezebel happened to move to Samaria, the capital of Israel, and there is only one way to describe it — a whirlwind hit Israel.

The king of Phoenicia was not only the political leader of his people, he was also the high priest of their religion, as his name Ethbaal implies. Jezebel had grown up steeped in the worship of Baal and his female consort, Astarte. Baal was considered to be the god of the land. He owned it, they said, and he controlled its weather and the increase of its crops and cattle. Jezebel’s mother was considered to be the mother-goddess of fertility. So idols of both her parents stood side by side in their temples and were worshiped by priests and temple prostitutes with lewd dances and sacred orgies.  In times of crisis such as famine, they slashed themselves and even sacrificed their children to appease the gods and implore their help.

Jezebel was fanatical about her religion. The worship of Jehovah must have seemed dull and commonplace by comparison, and she was determined to change it. She was a headstrong, self-willed, domineering woman, and with a moral weakling for a husband, she had little trouble getting her way. She brought 450 prophets of Baal and 400 prophets of her mother and housed them in the palace, and fed them in royal style. Their duties were to promote the worship of Baal throughout the land.

Not satisfied to establish her religion in Israel, Jezebel sought to stamp out every remnant of Jehovah worship and to kill every true prophet of God. She had to have things completely her way, and she almost succeeded. Some prophets survived by compromising their convictions and turning into “yes” men for Ahab. Another group of 100 were hidden in a cave and fed secretly by a Godly servant of Ahab named Obadiah. But Elijah was the only one courageous enough to stand up openly against Jezebel’s wickedness. God gave him a great victory when he called down fire from heaven upon Mount Carmel. The prophets of Baal were slain and it looked as though the nation would turn back to God. But Jezebel was not finished with her sinister work. She swore in her rage that she would kill Elijah, and he ran for his life, collapsed in the wilderness and pleaded with God to let him die. It was the lowest point in the Godly prophet’s great career. And Baal worship lived on, dragging the nation to new depths of degradation. This stubborn, headstrong, self-willed wife of Ahab brought disruption and distress to Israel for years to come.

Jezebel often manipulated her husband Ahab using his weakened state she enforced upon him as yes another tactic of control, often taunting him that he was weak. Sadly, these two were self-willed to the end. I guess you could say – she used all sorts of manipulation possible to get her husband to accomplish her dirty work without getting any blood on her own hands. Elijah met Ahab in the vineyard and pronounced God’s judgment on both him and his wife for their wicked deeds. King Jahosaphat was visiting and asked Ahab “Is there not yet a prophet of the Lord here, that we may inquire of him?” (1 Kgs. 22:7). And Ahab replied, “There is yet one man by whom we may inquire of the Lord, but I hate him, because he does not prophesy good concerning me, but evil. He is Micaiah son of Imlah” (1 Kgs. 22:8). So Micaiah was called, and although he knew his life was in danger, he spoke what God told him. Israel would be scattered on the mountains like sheep without a shepherd (1 Kgs. 22:17). As we might expect, Ahab rejected Micaiah’s prophecy and had him cast into prison. He was going to have what he wanted and do what he pleased, regardless of God’s will.

But it didn’t work out quite like he planned. Ahab knew the Syrians would be after him personally, so he removed his royal garments and disguised himself as a regular soldier. “Now a certain man drew his bow at random and struck the king of Israel in a joint of the armor” (1 Kgs. 22:34). That soldier did not know he was shooting at the king, but his arrow penetrated the narrow slit between the pieces of Ahab’s armor. Very few bowmen would have been that accurate. It was obvious that God was guiding that arrow, and Ahab’s self-will ended in his untimely death.

Jezebel outlived him by almost fourteen years. Jehu, the captain of Israel’s army, was to be the instrument of divine discipline in her case. After slaying King Jehoram, the son of Ahab, he rode to Jezreel. Scripture says, “When Jehu came to Jezreel, Jezebel heard of it, and she painted her eyes and adorned her head, and looked out the window” (2 Kgs. 9:30). She knew what was about to happen, but she was going to die like a queen, arrogant, self-willed and unrepentant to the end. She shouted abuses at Jehu from her upstairs window, but at Jehu’s command, several of her servants threw her down, “And some of her blood was sprinkled on the wall and on the horses, and he trampled her under foot” (2 Kgs. 9:33). It was a violent death, but it illustrated again the seriousness of sinful self-will in opposition to God.  Jezebel and Ahab had two sons and one daughter and unfortunately, these same curses were carried out continually, generation to generation so their influence lived on, even to this day.

God only knows how many generations will be affected by our sinful self-will, our insistence on having things our way instead of God’s. This shocking story ought to provide the incentive we need to put off every remnant of self-will and yield ourselves fully to do the will of God.  This is simply a brief overview to the recollection of such evil operations.  Like I said, I encourage you to read 1 and 2 Kings to fully grasp the truth in Spirit.

Next time we are going to glean wisdom from this Old Testament demonstration while pulling it into the here and now so it is applicable in our lives today as a useful tool to walk in full display of Jesus on Earth, as a true witness to Him above all else.  In the upcoming broadcasts we are going to deeply cover the characteristics of both Narcissists and Codependents, specifically how they weave and feed one another and learn to be free in Jesus – not for a moment or a day, but set free forever, in order we are complete in Him, having our identity in Jesus and Him alone.  The fruit of this freedom is we shall truly walk in love towards all, loving Him first, being of One Accord with Him and one another for the Glory of His Name.

In Part 2 of this Bible Study we will begin to explore CO-DEPENDENCY and how it influences us and seduces us to tolerate the operation of Jezebel operating in our own lives through NARCISSISTS.

God Bless you in His Love,

?Angela~Marked By Heaven

3 replies
  1. Kim
    Kim says:

    Hello,I am curious as to where you found out the information pertaining to Jezebel’s mother? What is the source?Thanks,Kim

    • Angela
      Angela says:

      God Bless you – Here is the Biblical reference to your question:
      And it came to pass, as if it had been a light thing for him to walk in the sins of Jeroboam the son of Nebat, that he took to wife Jezebel the daughter of Ethbaal king of the Zidonians, and went and served Baal, and worshiped him. 1 Kings 16:31
      I hope this helps clarify what you are asking? As far as direct sources go – I have studied many resources in and outside Biblical texts and this writing does not reflect any singular source.
      May the Lord Bless you and keep you ~ Angela


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